My parents are obsessed with 3 things:
They call each other to the kitchen window, like it’s a real-life santa claus siting.
Every single day. It’s “would you look at that?!” Binoculars in hand. Amazed. Bewildered.
In the winter? It is a vendetta against the squirrels who squander the birdseed.
In the spring? It is a race to see the first robin.
And in the summer? Particularly THIS summer? It is a non-stop “awwwww” fest over 3 wild kittens.
I’ll give it to them. These kittens? Are adorable AF.
So adorable? That just yesterday, my tough-as-nails dad hung a ball from a string, on one of the pine trees.
“Batting practice,” he said.
But what amazes me about these cats, is their skill at surviving….and thriving…on nothing but their own scrappiness.
I can just envision Darwin high-five-ing these cats. Survival of the fittest, baby. “You’re nailing it!”
The funny thing about humans (our ego gets in the way!)
Every species on the planet reaches for it’s fullest potential.
And yet humans? Only sometimes do.
Sometimes? We’re all Steve Jobs. And we blow everyone’s mind.
But sometimes? We shrink back into the shadows. “I’m fine. No really. You go ahead.”
We’ve all been given MASSIVE gifts to share with the world. And yet only some of us cultivate them.
Because it is SCARY to put yourself out there.
Fear of rejection
And for some? It is scary to leave that comfortable, familiar, safe rock….in order to leap to the next one (which COULD be covered in moss, or bird shit, or….mossy bird-shit).
Many people worm their way into the least threatening crevice of life. Then defend their territory to the death. Change is the enemy.
The other side of the coin? Those who change partners, homes, and careers almost as often as they change their toilet paper roll.
Just the other day, I bought a new couch, and the salesman laughed when I asked about ware and tear. “Just replace it in a few years. Who cares.” I should note that said salesman also tried to peak my interest in a throw pillow that he’d “gladly deliver to my apartment….personally” (gag). So….likely not the best salesman to begin with.
Nonetheless. It is the Tinder effect. The….. “don’t worry, if this doesn’t work out, I’ve got 3 other options lined up.”
BUT! What’s fascinating, is this over-willingness to jump ship? It is JUST as much a reflection of a FEAR OF REJECTION, as is cowering AWAY from change.
For many, this throw-away mentality is simply a way of avoiding discomfort.
At the first sign of an injured ego, they bail. “Can’t catch me, I’m the Gingerbread man!”
The greatest breach of your own human contract (gasp!)
But what many of us are missing the mark on (whether you’re a trench digger, or a fence hopper), is that NOT sharing your gifts with the world? NOT leaning into your own unique potential? Not seeking your BEST life? Is the GREATEST breach of your own human contract.
It’s like saying F-U to the universe.
And it is a massive disservice to you and the people around you.
Pablo Picasso once said, “the meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”
And for those who are unwilling to reach for their fullest potential?
The world needs what you’ve got! Choose to be your true self. Everywhere you go. And stop trying to CONVINCE other people that you have value. Believe that you have value. And then let those who see it, bask in it.
The world is filled with people who, no matter what the hell you do, will not like you. Just as there are people in the world who will love you savagely.
And it is those people who love you savagely (and have yet to love you savagely) who are relying on you to do your thang.
We are told that to chase money, to chase success…..it is greedy. And there are many Audi driving assholes who give the “high life” a bad wrap.
A new perspective on raking in the dough
But what if wealth and abundance were simply a reflection of your willingness to go after your gifts?
What if money was simply a return on the investment you made on yourself?
What if affluence was simply a measure of the value you were willing to share with the world?
What if your bank account was was simply a reflection of how much you love yourself?
Like ferrel cats, we have it in us to stalk our best lives. And yet, so many of us choose to play small. Because we’d rather avoid pain.
But rather than thinking about the cost of chasing that crazy dream of yours…..think about the cost of NOT chasing that crazy dream.
The lives you will NOT impact.
The change you will NOT affect.
The inspiration you will NOT create.
How grateful are we to JK Rowling, Michael Jordan, Beyonce, Jerry Seinfeld….that they chose to live a life true to themselves, and their own talents….DESPITE criticism?
They are some of the richest people in the world. And some of the most impactful.
Dare to envision a rich life
“Ya, but I'm me. I'm nothing special.”
Pfffffft. I call bullshit.
You’ve got a crazy concoction of you-ness that no one else has. And NOT digging into that? Is the equivalent of avoiding an overseas flight to the destination of your dreams…..simply because, well, you get really uncomfortable with turbulence, you never seem to be able to fall asleep sitting up, and you hate when someone else steals your armrest.
You can choose to focus on the pain, and avoid doing the AMAZING thing. Or you can suck it up, and trust that the shitty part won’t last forever (and actually….probably isn’t THAT shitty).
And like…..REALLY…..do you.
Then dare to envision a RICH life. Because if you are willing to cultivate your own potential (despite the discomfort), you will see the payoff.
Cinderella is a badass. And you wanna know why?
Cinderella? Made. Shit. Happen. She Drake-ed it. She started from the bottom….and Toosie slid right into the life she wanted.
Now, you may be tempted to argue here. After all. There was magic involved.
But just wait. Let me bat your scepticism outta the park.
Over the past couple of years, I’ve become a hardcore believer in manifestation.
WTF is manifestation?
A kind of…..co-creation between the universe, and your own mind….in order to invent the life that you truly want.
Which is less bibbity-bobbity-boo than you think.
I am more fulfilled than ever. Full of love. Driven. At peace. And living my purpose.
I’m no longer “getting through” my days. No longer working for the weekend. And no longer fighting deep-seeded, bone-chilling unhappiness. In fact, I was on a date, just the other day, and one of the first things the guy said to me was…. “you’re really happy aren’t you? I can tell….you’re really happy.”
Fuck yes I’m happy! And thank you for noticing!
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not “done.” There are SO many things in my life that I want to create. Baaaddd. But knowing what I know….about how I got to even….THIS point?! I know it’s just a matter of time.
Cocky? Maybe. But that’s the first rule of manifestation.
1. Believe that you CAN manifest AT ALL.
The universe will match whatever vibration you put out. And in order to raise your vibration, you’ve got to believe that everything is available to you.
Now, Cinderella was in a baaaad place, man. She mopped floors for a living. And aside from ridiculously adorable mice….her only friend was her OWN REFLECTION in the bubbles from (yep!) dirty mop water.
But IMO, Cinderella got the keys to the kingdom (literally), because she NEVER PLAYED THE VICTIM. And this? Is the second rule of manifestation.
2. Believe that you are EMPOWERED.
Not once does Cinderella ever say….. “Oh for fucks sake. What did I ever do to deserve this?! My life is ruined. I’m done for.”
She was victimized. But she was never a victim. And she never let her circumstances define her.
She never mopes. She never pouts. And she never writes herself off.
She never lets the fact that she’s a servant, get in the way of her dreams.
I can remember getting this exact wake-up call from one of my best friends. In the midst of my divorce, I would spill my guts out in chapter-long texts, and anytime I would dip into…. “woe is me,” she would remind me that I was empowered to choose my perspective. And that I was empowered to choose my future.
Which brings me to the next rule of manifestation. Know what the fuck you want in the first place.
3. Define what you want (and be prepared to get it)
Oftentimes, people have only a vague idea of what they want out of life. I wanna travel. I wanna be a good mom. I wanna be happy.
All good things.
But Jesus. Those goals? Are the equivalent of asking someone to go to the grocery store and get you…. “food.”
That person may well come home with a single head of broccoli. Or 17 cartons of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream.
I write in a journal every single morning. What do I write about? Things I want in life. And let me tell you. When you’re sitting on the balcony of your own 2 BR apartment, and you flip back to page 1, and see that one of the things you wanted, was a….. 2 BR apartment with a balcony. It kind of blows your mind.
Get specific, girlfriend. Otherwise the universe ain’t gonna know what to serve up.
Did Cinderella know what she wanted? You bet your ass she did. The very second she heard about the ball, she started thinking…..what the hell am I gonna wear?! (like ANY woman naturally would). And she drew up the blue-print.
She started making her own dress. And only when the time clock was running out, did her animal friends step in and finish it for her.
If you want something in life, you have to let your imagination run wild. It is the preview…the “coming attractions” of your future life. And the more specific you get, the better.
But wait a minute. You can have rules one, two AND three nailed….and still not get what you want….if you don’t take ACTUAL steps in the right direction.
Rule number four?
4. Take inspired action
Remember when I said your reality is a co-creation? Ya. It’s a cooperative project. And let me tell you. I have come up with some WILD dreams….only to fail in taking ANY steps whatsoever to make them happen.
They stay in incubation mode.
And they never seem to get off the ground.
Because, while intent is the seed of manifestation, action is the water that makes it grow. Your actions must reflect your dreams in order for success to happen.
Sometimes? Taking action looks like writing a blog post every Sunday, because you know you want to be a NY Times Bestselling author.
Other times? Success simply looks like SEEING THE OPPORTUNITIES AROUND YOU. And jumping on them.
Cinderella nearly pulls it off. The mice have done a half-ass job of stitching the last bow in place. And then, what do you know? Her ugly step-sisters rip the dress to shreds.
THIS? Is no accident.
THIS? Is what the universe often does, in the midst of our goal-chasing endeavours. She throws a wrench into things….just to see how bad you want it.
Do you back down? Or do you get back out there and make shit happen?!
Cue the Fairy Godmother.
At this point? Cinderella could have very well concluded that she must have just done mushrooms. And gone home to bed. Or! She could have decided that all these hurdles were a sign…she shouldn’t go to the ball, no matter what this kooky wand-wielding Granny had to say.
But no. She accepts help (one of the hardest things any of us will ever do on the path to success)…and she hops in that fucking carriage.
She sees the opportunity that is placed before her. And she takes action.
How many times have we been blind to the opportunities right in front of us?! How many times have we NOT hopped in the carriage that is waiting for us?!
Awareness is part of the formula. Action is part of the formula. But so too, is intention. Which is the last ingredient in this manifestation recipe.
5. Show up with LOVE
If ever you’re acting out of spite, greed, or malice? Your chances of success drop dramatically.
Not once does Cinderella get all “Imma show those bitches who the hottest damn chick in the club is! Das right!”
She shows up with love.
She stays focused on her own goals. And she doesn’t let the opinions of other people influence her agenda.
I can’t even begin to tell you the difference it makes to show up to my dreams with a servant’s heart. Wanting to impact. To inspire. To share. Rather than trying to bamboozle people out of money.
You bring a different energy to the table when you’re acting out of desperation or self-centredness. And the universe doesn’t vibe with negativity. Ever.
Which brings me back to my date.
It went well! There was definitely a happy ending!
And I am 100% convinced it went so well? Because I showed up, already happy. I showed up with love.
And so? I rest my case. Cinderella is a badass. And so are you. Start manifesting what you want in life. And high-five the universe, all the way to bank.